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Abortion

19 Apr

Let me first remind the reader that I am a Christian. I am also a woman, scientist, and a nurse. I believe in God and I believe that the 10 commandments are a very basic set of rules all human beings should use for guidance in what is right and wrong, one of which mentions that we are not to kill.   I have several friends who have had admitted to having abortions. They are still my friends, I still love them and don’t treat them differently. They are aware that I am both pro choice and pro life – let me explain.

I strongly believe God wants us to be free to make choices. This is a theme present over and over in the bible.                        1 Corinthians 10:23  says 23 “Everything is permissible”–but not everything is beneficial. “Everything is permissible”–but not everything is constructive.

God allows us to make the choices, it is up to us to make the right choices. He tries to teach us his desire for us in the bible and through our conscience/intuition (holy spirit) where  he speaks to us. We are ultimately the ones who have to live with the consequences of our choices.

In this line of thinking, lets examine the choices of abortion:

We all know what causes pregnancy. The first choice one makes is to have intercourse or not.. The sex drive is very strong and sometimes overwhelming if we let our passions go.

If we do not want children right now, we have another choice, which is a form of birth control. There are some methods of birth control you need to plan for in advance and some that can be used in a rush. Since some methods are less effective than others,  sometimes doubling-up (using the birth control pill and condom, for example) can protect you from risk of pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases.

Ok, so  worst case scenario – you had a little too much to drink last night (another choice) and hooked up with a guy at a college party (whats his name?) and the condom broke and you were on no other birth control method.  OMG!!!  Now what!?

You could go to the drug store to get the morning after pill or wait it out and hope the “crimson tide” makes her monthly visit. If not, yet another choice/decision may have to be made.

At this point, I say 2 wrongs don’t make a right. You chose to have intercourse before being ready to have children, chose to not use adequate birth control, and now you want the right to kill what you created with your choices and poor planning.

In this case, I feel abortion is a selfish choice. Many consider it the “easy way out” for person lacking self-control and maturity. But, one never knows the long term psychological damage this choice has on the abortive Mom.  When she has her “wanted” children one day, she will always think about the one she aborted and what if they find out they had an older brother or sister you killed?  When the date of the abortion comes up in her mind, she will think that her baby would have been 8 about now, and look at other 8 year olds wondering what her baby might have been like.  Even Moms who put their babies up for adoption think the same things, but at least they know the baby has a good home and is alive, and they might have the option of seeing them one day if they are open to it.

In the case of rape/incest, I understand the choice to want to abort a baby from rape and I think God does too. But, it truly is not the baby’s fault.  It may not be what God had planned, but God will bless the right choices. What mankind screws up, God can turn it to his glory.  Keep praying and listen to your heart.

I am not the judge of what is right or wrong. My only desire is to educate about what the bible says about such things. As a nurse, I am glad we have a relatively safe way for women to have control over their reproductive organs. But really the choices that really matter happen before you get pregnant! Ultimately, you have the choice and I hope you choose life.

The Musings of a Random Thinker

25 Mar

In everyday situations, I rarely share where I stand on controversial subjects. If I did, I would not have the relationships I have today. I value my friends more than the need to tell them my opinion. It’s not that I don’t think they can handle my opinion and they would not want to be friends with me. It is more about these being my personal feelings / thoughts and not something I am interested in changing via a discussion or argument with anyone. I do not learn in a confrontation and I avoid it whenever possible. I am open to changing my mind about things, but I will not be pressured into it just because someone doesn’t like what I think.

I learn by asking questions and doing research when the subjects come up. My friends know I am not shy about asking questions. I am always wondering why people do the things they do, what is their motivation, and what they feel about the outcome. I have a lot of interests and can talk with people about anything (except computer programming which is a subject area that tends to make my brain fog up and my eyes glaze over).

Anyway, since I like to write and think I have some valid thoughts to share about controversial subjects, I thought I would start here. Image